Tuesday, February 21, 2006
ARE U FEELING UPSET??
Every upset you've ever had with another human being has been a rules upset..
You weren't upset with the person; you were upset that she violated one of your rules. One of your standards or beliefs about how things must or should be.. In fact, you may have violated one of your own rules for how you should behave, think, or feel..
Next time you start getting upset with someone, remember that you're not upset with the person.. You are reacting to your rules for the situation.. It's about how to communicate in a more heartfelt fashion..
Even if I've clarified all my rules in advance, misunderstandings can still occur. That's why ongoing communication is so important... Anyhow, the fewer rules I have in my relationships, the happier I'll be..